How do you usually talk to your child when s/he does very well at an exam? Do you praise the child’s intelligence or you focus on the effort put into this success?
You will recognise that that the second option is an example of a growth mindset while the former one is a way of labelling your child as smart. Praising children’s intelligence harms their motivation and performance. We should not praise them for their brains and talent but for the work they put in and teach them to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort and keep on learning.
Whatever we say or do sends a message to the child – we should therefore try to send growth-mindset messages! Such as that the winners are those people who work the hardest, they’re not just born as such. As for teaching by doing, remember that those with a growth mindset do not give up when faced with what they perceive as failure. They rather learn from criticism by asking for feedback.
The book definitely provides a number of practical examples and advice on how to become more growth minded. In addition to those mentioned above, I found the relationship ones very pertinent. Happy reading!